Monday, September 19, 2011

COMING SOON, INSHA'ALLAH...


HOW TO BE A GOOD MUSLIM ?! => PART 2 


Insha'allah, in the second part i'll talk about child arround 1/4 years !!!






Yours,
M.Shameena

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

What did they say about the Prophet (sws) ?! PART 1

    After many research, i found some interesting information, on this topic !!!! 


First of all, we have to know about the personality of the Prophet(pbuh) isn't only held in a high esteem by Muslims, but it's also by great intellectuals, Western thinker and non-Muslims.


      Dear brothers and sisters, you will be surprise to read those testimony from persons famous.
Those testimony are voluntarily not published by french government. 


I wrote this article to make you understand than even today, the cleverness of the Prophet continually dominates europeans'mind or another image of altered ISLAM and of his Prophet remain in their thoughts. 


Let's start !!!


* Georges Bernard Shaw (english politician and writer of 20th century) : 


The Encyclopedia Britannica proclaims : "The man of religious whom known a great success on this earth." Georges B.S said that if Muhammad(sws) still alive, he would succeed in solving problems that treathen our civilization, today. 


Who was Georges Bernard Shaw ?! 




George Bernard Shaw was a superstar playwright and tart-tongued literary personality of the early 20th century. He first gained fame as a music critic under the pen name 'Corno di Bassetto,' but by then had already begun writing essays, political pamphlets, books and (eventually) plays. Among his most famous plays are Arms and the Man (1894), Major Barbara (1905), Saint Joan (1923), and Pygmalion (1914). The last was adapted 50 years later into the Broadway musical My Fair Lady. (Shaw also won an Oscar in 1938 for his screenplay for a non-musical movie version of Pygmalion.) For all these successes, Shaw is still better known for his famously large ego and sometimes prickly personality: He was a vegetarian and teetotaler, a radical socialist and social reformer, and a noted caustic wit who remained active until his death at age 94.Shaw won the 1925 Nobel Prize for Literature. He remains the only person to win both an Oscar and a Nobel Prize. (American politician Al Gore won the 2007 Nobel Peace Prize and also starred in the Oscar-winning documentary An Inconvenient Truth, but was not himself awarded an Oscar for the film)... Shaw's ascerbic style is sometimes described with the adjective Shavian.


* Thomas Carlyle (english historian) : 
He was qualified of "one of the richer "careers of ideas"  of 19th century and he also got a Nobel prize.
He was astonished that one man, of single knack, could weld clans : enemies and bedouin nomades in one nation, the most powerful and civilized, in less than 20 years.
Napoleon and Ghandi dreamed of such a society relentlessly, as created by this man in Arabia. 


Whos was Thomas Carlyle ?!




Thomas Carlyle was most famous in the Victorian era, when he was known for his dense, thoughtful books on history and philosophy. The son of a strict Calvinist, Carlyle became a divinity student at Edinburgh University but eventually left school and turned to writing instead. He developed a stomach ailment, possibly gastric ulcers, which stayed with him all his life and helped give him a reputation as a cranky and somewhat disagreeable personality. His prose style, famously quirky and sometimes savage, helped cement that reputation. His made a splash in 1833 with the publication of the semi-autobiographical Sartor Resartus ("The Tailor Re-Tailored"). Other major works included his three-part history The French Revolution (1837), the six-volume History of Frederick the Great (1858-65), and his 1847 collection of Oliver Cromwell's letters and speeches. He also devised a series of public lectures culminating in his book Heroes and Hero-Worship, which still is regarded as a key text on the subject. (His fascination with heroes and strong leaders has given him an reputation as anti-democratic.) In 1827 he married Jane Baille Welsh, herself brilliant and difficult, and their 40-year marriage is remembered as a tempestuous affair.Carlyle was the victim of a famous misfortune after writing the first volume of The French Revolution. He entrusted the manuscript to his friend John Stuart Mill for review; shortly afterwards, Mill's maid mistook the manuscript for trash paper and burned it. Carlyle was forced to rewrite the entire volume from scratch.


[ Indeed, no ther human accomplishes much in field as diverse and in a limited time, than Prophet Mohamed(pbuh). untutored, He was however a teacher in nation, a social reformer, moral guide, political thinker, a military genius, master of administration, a sincere friend, a wonderful compagnion, a devoted husband and a loving father. No one, in the history can exceed or even make equal, in any field of the life. This world had its share of personalities, but they were distinguished in only one or two domain, such as religious thought or direction of military affairs.]


Let's continue : 


* Edward Gibbon (british historian) and Simon Ocklay (brithish) : 
[extracted from HISTORY OF THE SARACEN EMPIRE]
"It's not the propagation, but the permanence of the religion that derserves our wonder; the same impression, pure and perfect, he left for Mecca and Medina, is found, after 12th centuries, in India, Africa and Turkey, proselytesof the AL-QUR'AAN... The Muslims have managed to resist, uniformly, to reduce the voltage of the object of their faith and of their devotion to the level of meanning and the imagination of man. "I believe in ONE GOD and Mohamed(pbuh), HIS apostle"; this locks the profession of faith of islam, in a simple and invariable way. The intellectual and divinity image of ISLAM never been degraded by an idol. The honors of the Prophet have never transgressed the measure of human virtue.Those living precepts have restrained the gratitude of his disciples within the limits of reason and of the religion.


Who were Edward Gibbon and Simon Ocklay ?! 

=> Simon Ocklay : 
Ockley was born at Exeter. He was educated at Queens' College, Cambridge, and graduated B.A. in 1697, MA. in 1701, and B.D. in 1710. He became fellow of Jesus College and vicar of Swavesey, and in 1711 was chosen Adams Professor of Arabic in the university. He had a large family, and his latter days were embittered by pecuniary embarrassments, which form the subject of a chapter in Isaac D'Israeli's Calamities of Authors.
The preface to the second volume of his History of the Saracens is dated from Cambridge Castle, where he lay a prisoner for debt.
Ockley maintained that a knowledge of Oriental literature was essential to the proper study of theology, and in the preface to his first book, the Introductio ad linguas orientates (1706), he urges the importance of the study.
He died at Swavesey.


=> Edward Gibbon : 




Gibbon was the supreme historian of the Enlightenment, and is best-known as the author of the monumental The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, often considered the greatest historical work written in English.
Edward Gibbon was born in Putney in South London into a prosperous family. His father was a wealthy Tory member of Parliament who went into seclusion and left his son to the care of an aunt. Gibbon was a sickly child and his education at Westminster and at Magdalen College, Oxford, was irregular. According to Gibbon's own explanation he was too bashful to spend his time in taverns, but his studies ended anyway after one year: he was expelled for turning to Roman Catholicism - a decision which was undoubtedly directed against one of his intellectually lazy Anglican college tutors. In 1753 Gibbon was sent by his father to Lausanne, Switzerland. He boarded with a Calvinist pastor and scholar, who was very demanding in his teaching, and rejoined the Anglican fold. In Lausanne he fell in love with Suzanne Curchod, who eventually married Jacques Necker, a banker. Their relationship was ended by his father, and Gibbon remained unmarried for the rest of his life.
From 1759 to 1762 Gibbon hold a commission in the Hampshire militia, reaching the rank of colonel. Before 1763 Gibbon had considered various subjects as worthy of the type of philosophical analysis that he wished to apply to history: the life of Sir Walter Raleigh, the history of Switzerland, and others. However, he felt that he had nothing original to say about Elizabethan politics and he could not read German.
In 1764 he visited Rome and was inspired to write the history of the city from the death of Marcus Aurelius to the year 1453. After his father died Gibbon found himself in some difficulties, but he was able to settle in London to proceed with his great work. The first volume appeared in 1776, with a certain amount of public reaction to Gibbon's ironical treatment of the rise of Christianity and the actions of early church fathers. Like Voltaire, Gibbon was himself a deist who had little appreciation of the metaphysical side of religion. He examined the secular side of religion as a social phenomenon - religion did not have for Gibbon special sanctity. But Christianity had a special role in the fall of the Roman empire: "... the church and even the state were distracted by religious factions, whose conflicts were sometimes bloody and always implacable; the attention of the emperors was diverted from camps to synods; the Roman world was oppressed by a new species of tyranny, and the persecuted sects became the secret enemies of their country."
Between 1774 and 1783 Gibbon sat in the House of Commons, and became a lord commissioner of trade and plantations, partly because he was considered a nuisance as a politician. In 1774 he was elected to Dr Johnson's Club. From 1783 Gibbon spent much of his time in Lausanne and in England with Lord Sheffield (John Baker Holroy) in his Sussex and London houses.
The last three volumes of Decline and Fall were published in 1788. The book was a bestseller, 
and offered the reading public a vivid narrative of the past instead of an antiquarian picture.




Saturday, July 23, 2011

Some big mistakes made by Muslims... How to mend it ?! PART 1

    Nowadays, everyone change...
We all change our :

  • way of life 
  • habits
  • hobbies
  • mentality
etc..... and we also end up changing ISLAM, with some modifications...




HOW IS IT POSSIBLE ?! 




What a good question !!! Don't you think so ?! 




But first is it true ?! 




What did we changed ?! => Is it serious ?! => How could we mend it ?!...


As we can observed, all over the world, we all have different customs. Nowadays, customs may impact on ISLAM. Even, if you are not agreed, it's the true...trust me.
Today, too much people mix their customs with ISLAM... But do they know that some of them are haram ??????


Let's talk about our mistakes : 


1/ HIJAB


   As we all know the AL-QUR'AAN said to all women to covered their hair, bosom, shapes and also their adornment...
Proofs : 
*{7:26} :
7:26


Translation in : 
English : O children of Adam! We have indeed sent down to you clothing to cover your shame, and (clothing) for beauty and clothing that guards (against evil), that is the best. This is of the communications of Allah that they may be mindful.


Tamil : ஆதமுடைய மக்களே! மெய்யாகவே, நாம் உங்களுக்கு உங்களுடைய மானத்தை மறைக்கவும், உங்களுக்கு அலங்காரமாகவும், ஆடையை அளித்துள்ளோம். ஆயினும் தக்வா (பயபக்தி) எனும் ஆடையே (அதைவிட) மேலானது. இது அல்லாஹ்வுடைய (அருளின்) அடையாளங்களில் (ஒன்றாக) உள்ளதாகும் - (இதைக் கொண்டு) நல்லுணர்வு பெறுவார்களாக.


*{24:31} : 
24:31


Translation in :
English : And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or those whom their right hands possess, or the male servants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women; and let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known; and turn to Allah all of you, O believers! so that you may be successful.


Tamil : இன்னும்; முஃமினான பெண்களுக்கும் நீர் கூறுவீராக: அவர்கள் தங்கள் பார்வைகளைத் தாழ்த்திக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; தங்கள் வெட்கத் தலங்களைப் பேணிக்காத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; தங்கள் அழகலங்காரத்தை அதினின்று (சாதாரணமாக வெளியில்) தெரியக் கூடியதைத் தவிர (வேறு எதையும்) வெளிக் காட்டலாகாது; இன்னும் தங்கள் முன்றானைகளால் அவர்கள் தங்கள் மார்புகளை மறைத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; மேலும், (முஃமினான பெண்கள்) தம் கணவர்கள், அல்லது தம் தந்தையர்கள், அல்லது தம் கணவர்களின் தந்தையர்கள் அல்லது தம் புதல்வர்கள் அல்லது தம் கணவர்களின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தம் சகோதரர்கள் அல்லது தம் சகோதரர்களின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தம் சகோதரிகளின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தங்கள் பெண்கள், அல்லது தம் வலக்கரங்கள் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்டவர்கள், அல்லது ஆடவர்களில் தம்மை அண்டி வாழும் (பெண்களை விரும்ப முடியாத அளவு வயதானவர்கள்) பெண்களின் மறைவான அங்கங்களைப் பற்றி அறிந்து கொள்ளாத சிறுவர்கள் ஆகிய இவர்களைத் தவிர, (வேறு ஆண்களுக்குத்) தங்களுடைய அழகலங்காரத்தை வெளிப்படுத்தக் கூடாது; மேலும், தாங்கள் மறைத்து வைக்கும் அழகலங்காரத்திலிருந்து வெளிப்படுமாறு தங்கள் கால்களை (பூமியில்) தட்டி நடக்க வேண்டாம்; மேலும், முஃமின்களே! (இதில் உங்களிடம் ஏதேனும் தவறு நேரிட்டிருப்பின்,) நீங்கள் தவ்பா செய்து (பிழை பொறுக்கத் தேடி), நீங்கள் வெற்றி பெறும் பொருட்டு, நீங்கள் அனைவரும் அல்லாஹ்வின் பக்கம் திரும்புங்கள்.




*{33:59} : 
33:59


Translation in :
English : O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.


Tamil : நபியே! நீர் உம் மனைவிகளுக்கும், உம் பெண்மக்களுக்கும் ஈமான் கொண்டவர்களின் பெண்களுக்கும், அவர்கள் தங்கள் தலைமுன்றானைகளைத் தாழ்த்திக் கொள்ளுமாறு கூறுவீராக; அவர்கள் (கண்ணியமானவர்கள் என) அறியப்பட்டு நோவினை செய்யப்படாமலிருக்க இது சுலபமான வழியாகும். மேலும் அல்லாஹ் மிக மன்னிப்பவன்; மிக்க அன்புடையவன்.




But why am i talking about this ?!
  In some contry, we can observe/see some women who wear a simple shawl as an hijab... And so what ?????
The problem is that we can see their hair, neck, or their jewels, etc. We can enumerate a lot... But as we can read on the above verses, women must hide their hair, ornements, etc.


see these pictures :




    Even, if they wear a shawl, they can cover so that it hides these parts.
They can wear their shawl like this :

We can observed, that we can't see hair, or something else.
My small tips : For this, you need a long shawl and a safety pin.
1st step => Take a quarter of the shawl and tie it with a safety pin in right shoulder.



2nd step and last step : Take the rest of the shawl and put it on your head.


~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Mostly in front of their relatives, expect for their father, sons, sisters, brothers, father-in-law, brothers'sons, sisters'sons or between women.


2/ NOSE PIN

     Most of Asian Muslim women got a nose pin.
What says ISLAM on nose pin ?! read this => CLICK HERE <=



   Islamically, if we wear a nose pin we must hide when we go out.
What do i mean ?! 
I just want to say, that those women must wear a niqab when you go out, for hiding your piercing.
The AL-QUR'AAN, told us to hide our ornament which means our jewellery... I know a nose pin is a jewel => so we must hide it !!!
Proof : 
*{24:31} : 
24:31

Translation in : 
English : And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or those whom their right hands possess, or the male servants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women; and let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known; and turn to Allah all of you, O believers! so that you may be successful.

Tamil : இன்னும்; முஃமினான பெண்களுக்கும் நீர் கூறுவீராக: அவர்கள் தங்கள் பார்வைகளைத் தாழ்த்திக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; தங்கள் வெட்கத் தலங்களைப் பேணிக்காத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; தங்கள் அழகலங்காரத்தை அதினின்று (சாதாரணமாக வெளியில்) தெரியக் கூடியதைத் தவிர (வேறு எதையும்) வெளிக் காட்டலாகாது; இன்னும் தங்கள் முன்றானைகளால் அவர்கள் தங்கள் மார்புகளை மறைத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்; மேலும், (முஃமினான பெண்கள்) தம் கணவர்கள், அல்லது தம் தந்தையர்கள், அல்லது தம் கணவர்களின் தந்தையர்கள் அல்லது தம் புதல்வர்கள் அல்லது தம் கணவர்களின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தம் சகோதரர்கள் அல்லது தம் சகோதரர்களின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தம் சகோதரிகளின் புதல்வர்கள், அல்லது தங்கள் பெண்கள், அல்லது தம் வலக்கரங்கள் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்டவர்கள், அல்லது ஆடவர்களில் தம்மை அண்டி வாழும் (பெண்களை விரும்ப முடியாத அளவு வயதானவர்கள்) பெண்களின் மறைவான அங்கங்களைப் பற்றி அறிந்து கொள்ளாத சிறுவர்கள் ஆகிய இவர்களைத் தவிர, (வேறு ஆண்களுக்குத்) தங்களுடைய அழகலங்காரத்தை வெளிப்படுத்தக் கூடாது; மேலும், தாங்கள் மறைத்து வைக்கும் அழகலங்காரத்திலிருந்து வெளிப்படுமாறு தங்கள் கால்களை (பூமியில்) தட்டி நடக்க வேண்டாம்; மேலும், முஃமின்களே! (இதில் உங்களிடம் ஏதேனும் தவறு நேரிட்டிருப்பின்,) நீங்கள் தவ்பா செய்து (பிழை பொறுக்கத் தேடி), நீங்கள் வெற்றி பெறும் பொருட்டு, நீங்கள் அனைவரும் அல்லாஹ்வின் பக்கம் திரும்புங்கள்.

  Hope that it will clear you what i want to make you understand, it's that you must wear the NIQAB if you have a nose pin.

If those proof isn't enough for you, you can ask me more... 


3/ CLOTHES

   In ISLAM, we have some rules about on "how to dress".
These rules existe just for our protection/safety.

How to dress in our home, when there are some relatives(non-mahram) ?! 
Women must wear the HIJAB, not a simple shawl which don't cover everything, large clothes which wil cover their shapes and body.

How to dress outside ?!
Women must wear an hijab, with large clothes.
or they can also wear abaya, jilbeb or burqa with a niqab or a sittar.



   But there is a small problem with women who used to wear abaya. What's the problem ?! 
As we know, there is a lot of variety of abaya. For exemple : abaya for a function, wedding, etc.
But, it can attract people, mostly men.
And they shouldn't attract them... So what should they do ?! 
Very simple, they just have to wear a simple abaya(without too much pearls,etc.) when they go out. And if they want, they can wear gorgeous abayas when they have a function(wedding,eid,etc.). 

Proof : 

 
(sorry i couldn't find it in english) 
The main point : 
1/ Cover the whole body
2/ Don't be a beautiful ornament in itself
3/ Be thick and not transparent
4/ Be broad and not slinky
5/ Don't be fragrant
6/ Not resemble clothing of men
7/ Not resemble to the dress of the disbelievers
8/ Don't attract attention



5/ MIXING BETWEEN : 
ISLAM WITH CUSTOM


  Nowadays, too much people mix their won custom with ISLAM, but is it according to SUNNAH ?! Is it haram ?!

a.1/ MARRIAGE => DOWRY 
  As we know, CUSTOMS have a big part in our life. Most people follow the customs instead of ISLAM. 
In Turkey, India, Pakistan and many other contry, it's the bride who has to offer the dowry, which is contrary to ISLAM. 
What does ISLAM said about dowry ?! 
*{4:4} : 
4:4

Translation in : 
English : And give women their dowries as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result.

Tamil : நீங்கள் (மணம் செய்து கொண்ட) பெண்களுக்கு அவர்களுடைய மஹர் (திருமணக்கொடை)களை மகிழ்வோடு (கொடையாக) கொடுத்துவிடுங்கள் - அதிலிருந்து ஏதேனும் ஒன்றை மனமொப்பி அவர்கள் உங்களுக்கு கொடுத்தால் அதைத் தாராளமாக, மகிழ்வுடன் புசியுங்கள்.


*{4:24} : 
4:24

Translation in : 
English : And all married women except those whom your right hands possess (this is) Allah's ordinance to you, and lawful for you are (all women) besides those, provided that you seek (them) with your property, taking (them) in marriage not committing fornication. Then as to those whom you profit by, give them their dowries as appointed; and there is no blame on you about what you mutually agree after what is appointed; surely Allah is Knowing, Wise.

Tamil : இன்னும் (போரில் பிடிபட்டு உங்கள் ஆதரவிலிருக்கும்) அடிமைப் பெண்களைத் தவிர, கணவனுள்ள பெண்களை நீங்கள் மணமுடிப்பது விலக்கப்பட்டுள்ளது. (இவையனைத்தும்) அல்லாஹ் உங்கள் மீது விதியாக்கியவையாகும். இவர்களைத் தவிர, மற்றப் பெண்களை, தவறான முறையில் இன்பம் அனுபவிக்காமல், அவர்களுக்கு உங்கள் செல்வங்களிலிருந்து (மஹராக) கொடுத்துத் (திருமணம் செய்யத்) தேடிக் கொள்வது உங்களுக்கு அனுமதிக்கப்பட்டுள்ளது. எனவே இவ்வாறு (சட்டப்பூர்வமாக மணந்து கொண்ட) பெண்களிடமிருந்து நீங்கள் சுகம் அனுபவிப்பதால் அவர்களுக்காக (விதிக்கப்பட்ட மஹர்)தொகையைக் கடமையாக கொடுத்து விடுங்கள். எனினும் மஹரை பேசி முடித்தபின் அதை(க் கூட்டவோ அல்லது குறைக்கவோ) இருவரும் சம்மதித்துக் கொண்டால் உங்கள் மேல் குற்றமாகாது - நிச்சயமாக அல்லாஹ் நன்கறிந்தோனும், ஞானமுடையோனுமாக இருக்கிறான்.

*{4:25} : 
4:25

Translation in : 
English : And whoever among you has not within his power ampleness of means to marry free believing women, then (he may marry) of those whom your right hands possess from among your believing maidens; and Allah knows best your faith: you are (sprung) the one from the other; so marry them with the permission of their masters, and give them their dowries justly, they being chaste, not fornicating, nor receiving paramours; and when they are taken in marriage, then if they are guilty of indecency, they shall suffer half the punishment which is (inflicted) upon free women. This is for him among you who fears falling into evil; and that you abstain is better for you, and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.

Tamil : உங்களில் எவருக்குச் சுதந்தரமுள்ள முஃமினான பெண்களை விவாகம் செய்து கொள்ள சக்தியில்லையோ, அவர்கள் முஃமினான அடிமைப்பெண்களிலிருந்து உங்கள் வலக்கரங்கள் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்ட பெண்களை (மணமுடித்துக் கொள்ளலாம்;) அல்லாஹ் உங்கள் ஈமானை நன்கு அறிகிறவன். உங்களில் சிலர் சிலரைச் சேர்ந்தவர்கள்; ஆகவே முஃமினான அடிமைப்பெண்களை அவர்களின் எஜமானர்களின் அனுமதி கொண்டு, மணமுடித்துக் கொள்ளுங்கள் - அவர்களுக்குரிய (மஹர்) தொகையை முறைப்படிக் கொடுத்து விடுங்கள்; அப்பெண்கள் பரிசுத்தமானவர்களாகவும், விபச்சாரம் செய்யாதவர்களாகவும், கள்ளநட்புக் கொள்ளாதவர்களாகவும் இருக்க வேண்டும். எனவே, அப்பெண்கள் முறைப்படி திருமணம் முடிக்கப்பட்டபின் மானக்கேடாக நடந்து கொண்டால், விவாகம் செய்யப்பட்ட சுதந்தரமான பெண்கள் மீது விதிக்கப்படும் தண்டனையில் பாதியே அப்பெண்களுக்கு விதிக்கப்பெறும்; தவிர, உங்களில் எவர் தன்னால் பாவம் ஏற்பட்டுவிடும் என்று(அல்லாஹ்வுக்குப்) பயப்படுகிறாரோ - அவருக்குத்தான் இந்த சட்டம். எனினும் நீங்கள் பொறுமையாக இருப்பது உங்களுக்கு மிகவும் நல்லதாகும்; இன்னும் அல்லாஹ் மன்னிப்போனாகவும், மிக்க கருணையுடையோனாகவும் இருக்கின்றான்.



*{5:5} : 
5:5


Translation in : 
English : This day (all) the good things are allowed to you; and the food of those who have been given the Book is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them; and the chaste from among the believing women and the chaste from among those who have been given the Book before you (are lawful for you); when you have given them their dowries, taking (them) in marriage, not fornicating nor taking them for paramours in secret; and whoever denies faith, his work indeed is of no account, and in the hereafter he shall be one of the losers.


Tamil : இன்றைய தினம் உங்களுக்கு (உண்ண) எல்லா நல்ல தூய பொருட்களும் ஹலாலாக்கப் பட்டுள்ளன; வேதம் கொடுக்கப்பட்டோரின் உணவும் உங்களுக்கு ஹலாலானதே; உங்களுடைய உணவும் அவர்களுக்கு (சாப்பிட) ஆகுமானதே, முஃமின்களான கற்புடைய பெண்களும், உங்களுக்கு முன்னர் வேதம் அளிக்கப்ட்டவர்களிலுள்ள கற்புடைய பெண்களும் விலைப் பெண்டிராகவோ, ஆசை நாயகிகளாகவோ வைத்துக் கொள்ளாது, அவர்களுக்குரிய மஹரை அவர்களுக்கு அளித்து, மண முடித்துக் கொள்வது உங்களுக்கு அனுமதிக்கப் பட்டுள்ளது; மேலும் எவர் ஈமானை நிராகரிக்கிறாரோ, அவருடைய அமல் (செயல்) அழிந்து போகும் - மேலும் அவர் மறுமையில் நஷ்டமடைந்தோரில் ஒருவராகவே இருப்பார்.




*{33:50} : 
33:50


Translation in : 
English : O Prophet! surely We have made lawful to you your wives whom you have given their dowries, and those whom your right hand possesses out of those whom Allah has given to you as prisoners of war, and the daughters of your paternal uncles and the daughters of your paternal aunts, and the daughters of your maternal uncles and the daughters of your maternal aunts who fled with you; and a believing woman if she gave herself to the Prophet, if the Prophet desired to marry her-- specially for you, not for the (rest of) believers; We know what We have ordained for them concerning their wives and those whom their right hands possess in order that no blame may attach to you; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.


Tamil : நபியே! எவர்களுக்கு நீர் அவர்களுடைய மஹரை கொடுத்து விட்டீரோ அந்த உம்முடைய மனைவியரையும், உமக்கு(ப் போரில் எளிதாக) அல்லாஹ் அளித்துள்ளவர்களில் உம் வலக்கரம் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்டவர்களையும், நாம் உமக்கு ஹலாலாக்கி இருக்கின்றோம்; அன்றியும் உம் தந்தையரின் சகோதரர்களின் மகள்களையும், உம் தந்தையரின் சகோதரிகள் மகள்களையும், உம் மாமன் மார்களின் மகள்களையும், உம் தாயின் சகோதரிமாரின் மகள்களையும் - இவர்களில் யார் உம்முடன் ஹிஜ்ரத் செய்து வந்தார்களோ அவர்களை (நாம் உமக்கு விவாகத்திற்கு ஹலாலாக்கினோம்); அன்றியும் முஃமினான ஒரு பெண் நபிக்குத் தன்னை அர்ப்பணித்து, நபியும் அவளை மணந்து கொள்ள விரும்பினால் அவளையும் (மணக்க நாம் உம்மை அனுமதிக்கின்றோம்); இது மற்ற முஃமின்களுக்கன்றி உமக்கே (நாம் இத்தகு உரிமையளித்தோம்; மற்ற முஃமின்களைப் பொறுத்தவரை) அவர்களுக்கு அவர்களுடைய மனைவிமார்களையும், அவர்களுடைய வலக்கரங்கள் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்டவர்களையும் பற்றி நாம் கடமையாக்கியுள்ளதை நன்கறிவோம்; உமக்கு ஏதும் நிர்ப்பந்தங்கள் ஏற்படாதிருக்கும் பொருட்டே (விதி விலக்களித்தோம்); மேலும் அல்லாஹ் மிக மன்னிப்பவன்; மிக்க அன்புடையவன்.




*{60:10} : 
60:10


Translation in : 
English : O you who believe! when believing women come to you flying, then examine them; Allah knows best their faith; then if you find them to be believing women, do not send them back to the unbelievers, neither are these (women) lawful for them, nor are those (men) lawful for them, and give them what they have spent; and no blame attaches to you in marrying them when you give them their dowries; and hold not to the ties of marriage of unbelieving women, and ask for what you have spent, and to them ask for what they have spent. That is Allah's judgment; He judges between you, and Allah is Knowing, Wise.


Tamil : ஈமான் கொண்டவர்களே! முஃமினான பெண்கள் ஹிஜ்ரத் செய்து (நாடு துறந்தவர்களாக) உங்களிடம் வந்தால், அவர்களை நீங்கள் பரிசோதித்துக் கொள்ளுங்கள்; அல்லாஹ் அவர்கள் ஈமானை நன்கறிந்தவன்; எனவே அவர்கள் முஃமினான (பெண்கள்) என நீங்கள் அறிந்தால், காஃபிர்களிடம் அவர்களைத் திருப்பியனுப்பி விடாதீர்கள்; ஏனெனில், அந்த பெண்கள் அந்த ஆண்களுக்கு அனுமதிக்கப்பட்டவர்களில்லை. அந்த ஆண்கள் இந்தப் பெண்களுக்கு அனுமதிக்கப்பட்டவர்களில்லை. (ஆனால், இப் பெண்களுக்காக) அவர்கள் செலவு செய்திருந்ததை அவர்களுக்குக் கொடுத்து விடுங்கள்; அன்றியும் நீங்கள் அப்பெண்களுக்குரிய மஹரை கொடுத்து அவர்களை விவாகம் செய்து கொள்வது உங்கள் மீது குற்றமில்லை; மேலும் நிராகரித்துக் கொண்டிருக்கும் பெண்களின் விவாக பந்தத்தை நீங்கள் பற்றிப்பிடித்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டாம்; அன்றியும், நீங்கள் செலவு செய்திருந்ததை (அவர்கள் போய்ச் சேருவோரிடம்) கேளுங்கள்; (அவ்வாறே ஈமான் கொண்டு உங்களிடம் வந்து விட்டோருக்காகத்) தாங்கள் செலவு செய்ததை அவர்கள் (உங்களிடம்) கேட்கலாம் - இதுவே அல்லாஹ்வுடைய கட்டளையாகும்; உங்களிடையே அவன் (இவ்வாறே) தீர்ப்பு வழங்குகிறான் - மேலும், அல்லாஹ் நன்கறிந்தவன்; ஞானம் மிக்கவன்.


What's the role of the dowry ?! 

1/ is a pre-requisite for a marriage
2/ is to be paid by husband to his wife
3/ should be equitable
4/ the husband and wife can mutually make adjusment to the dowry 
5/ forfeiting of the dowry doesn't apply for believers


In the QUR'AAN, there isn't any part where it's said that it must be monetary value, or something else...

Too many girls, didn't get married just because of the dowry => too expensive...
And even if you get married with a girl, she will think that you married her just for her money.
Moreover, islam told us to choose a girl for the following attributes : 
-a Muslim woman
-a believing woman
-a devout woman
-a true woman
-a woman who is patient and constant
-a woman who humbles herself
-a woman who gives charity
-a woman who fasts and denies herself
-a woman who guards her chastity
-a woman who engages much in ALLAH(swt)'s praise

see some impact on the society => click here <= (it's the same case in other contry like pakistan, etc.)



a.2/ ORGANIZATION OF THE WEDDING 
  A marriage is an unforgettable in our life, it should be according to the SUNNAH.
But a majority of people, choose to make it grand, and waste a lot of money on this. 
They booked a big wedding, costly clothes, too much jewels, etc.
But is it correct ?! 
Noooooooooooooooooo... Why ?! 
According to the SUNNAH, a marriage => nikkah.
It is preferable to perform the nikah in a large gathering such as after the jumu'ah salat in a jumu'ah musjid or in any other large gathering. This is so that the nikah will be well announced and the people will become aware of thenikah. A nikah should not be performed in secret and privacy. However, if due to some reason many persons are unable to attend, then at least two males or one male and two females who hear the nikah being performed in their very presence should be present.

        In islam it's says => "A Muslim father is told to get her daughter married away in a most simple ‘Nikkah’ ceremony solemnized by a Imam  in a mosque, witnessed by his close relatives and friends. He is not even required to throw a luncheon to the handful of invitees assembled for this occasion. In fact it is desirable on the part of the groom that he offers a reception (Waleema*) to his near ones & dear ones without forgetting the poor people of his society. "


Waleema* : 

The weleemah is the "wedding feast".  The husband is required to sponsor this feast after the marriage contract, the sunnah being three days after husband and wife have been together.  There are many hadith about this important practice, among them:

"A wedding must have a feast."
The above was spoken to Ali (ra) when he sought Fatimah, the Prophet's (sas) daughter in marriage.  The Prophet (pbuh) said to Abdur-Rahman ibn 'Auf in the form of an order:

"Give a waleemah, even if it is just with one sheep."
As for three days, it was mentioned as the Prophet's practice when he married Safiya:

On the authority of Anas, may allah be pleased with him, who said: "The Prophet (pbuh) entered upon his wife and sent me to invite some men for food."
Also on the authority of Anas that he said: "The Prophet (pbuh) married Safiya, and her freedom was her dowry. He gave the banquet after three days."  (from Adaab Az-Zafaaf)
Although many scholars view the waleemah as a highly stressed sunnah, the above hadith and others favor the interpretation that it is obligatory.  In any case, it clearly should not be taken lightly or neglected without strong reasons.

How Much?

The Prophet's (pbuh) order to Abdur-Rahman ibn 'Auf to give a feast "even if only with on sheep" would seem to set a minimum for the waleemah.  However, it is permissible for the waleemah to be simple and not include meat according to the following hadith:

"The Prophet (pbuh) stayed between Khaibar and Al-Madinah for three days during which he had entered with his wife Safiya. Then I invited the Muslims to his wedding banquet. There was neither meat nor bread at his banquet. Rather, leather eating mats were brought out and on them was placed dates, dried milk, and clarified butter. The people ate their fill."
Serving meat is clearly preferable, however, since it was the consistent sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) and the Companions and based on the Prohpet's order to Abdur-Rahman.  The fact that the Prophet (pbuh) was on an expedition in the above narration may also have been a factor bringing into question the general applicability of the hadith.

Clearly, the waleemah should not involve excess or wastefulness which are forbidden at all times.  This has become an almost universal custom in most Muslim countries and is an evil practice which should be stopped.  Making more food than can possibly be consumed and wasting what remains is a form of tab'dheer (wasting or destroying wealth), about which ALLAH(swt) said:
*{17:26} : 
17:26


Translation in : 
English : And give to the near of kin his due and (to) the needy and the wayfarer, and do not squander wastefully.


Tamil : இன்னும், உறவினருக்கு அவருடைய உரிமை (பாத்தியதை)களைக் கொடுப்பீராக; மேலும், ஏழைகளுக்கும் வழிப்போக்கர்களுக்கும், (அவரவர்களுக்கு உரியதைக் கொடுத்து விடுவீராக!) வீணாகப் (பொருளை) விரையஞ் செய்யாதீர்.


*{17:27} : 
17:27


Translation in : 
English : Surely the squanderers are the fellows of the Shaitans and the Shaitan is ever ungrateful to his Lord.


Tamil : நிச்சயமாக விரயஞ் செய்பவர்கள் ஷைத்தான்களின் சகோதரர்களாவார்கள்; ஷைத்தானோ தன்னுடைய இறைவனுக்கு நன்றி கெட்டவனாக இருக்கிறான்.


Who invite ?!

When giving the waleema, you should invite family, friends and neighbors.  It is also commendable to give some of the food in sadaqa in gratitude to ALLAH(swt) for the blessing of the marriage.  It is very important NOT to invite only the wealthy or people of influence and ignore the poor.  Rather, focus should be directed to inviting the best Muslims one knows regardless of their "social" standing.  The Prophet (pbuh) said:

"The most evil food is that of the waleemah.  The rich are invited to it but the poor are left out.  And whoever ignores the invitation has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger"  Bukhari(ra).
It is clear from the above that if one is invited to a waleemah and there is not disobedience being practiced than it is obligatory to respond to that invitation without valid excuse.  This is also found explicitly in the following hadith:

"When one of you is invited to a waleemah, he should go."  Bukhari & Muslim(Moslim)
What if You are Fasting?

If you are fasting an obligatory fast, you should still attend the invitation but abstain from eating and make du'a for the host.  The Prophet (pbuh) said to a man who remained away because he was fasting:

"When one of you is invited to a meal, let him respond.  If he was not fasting, let him eat.  If fasting, let him supplicate (for the host)."  Muslim
If you are fasting a voluntary fast, you have your choice.  You can break your fast and participate (especially if your host wishes that) or you may continue fasting and pray for your host.  If you break a voluntary fast, there is no need to make it up.

Acceptable Excuses for Not Attending

Anything which allows one not to attend prayer in the masjid such as illness, great distance, etc.
You should not attend a waleemah where evil practices are committed such as mixing of the sexes, music, alcohol, etc.  Only if you have the ability to stop such evil may you attend for that purpose.
If the invitation is for which only the rich are invited to the exclusion of the poor.  This is because the Prophet (pbuh) described this as the "most evil food".
According to Ibn Taimia, a person should not accept the invitation of another person who does not pray.


=> The marriage must be simple, without spending too much money on...



b/ USELESS FUNCTION => CEREMONY OF PUBERTY 
In India, when a girl reached puberty they celabrate it(it's an indian custum)...even muslims do it...
It's called "CEROMONY OF PUBERTY", it's a waste of money. The AL-QUR'AAN never educate us to make those type of celebration. 
But what does the AL-QUR'AAN says about this ?! 
The AL-QUR'ANN taught us to avoid waste of money.
=> ISLAM on money matter :
As we all know ALLAH(swt) he created the heavens and the earth, everything belongs to him :
*{20:6} : 
20:6


Translation in :
English :  His is what is in the heavens and what is in the earth and what is between them two and what is beneath the ground.


Tamil : வானங்களிலுள்ளவையும், பூமியிலுள்ளவையும், இவ்விரண்டிற்கும் இடையே உள்ளவையும், மண்ணுக்கு அடியில் உள்ளவையும் அவனுக்கே உரியன.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
According to this verse, money, which is in people's hands, belongs to ALLAH(swt) :
*{24:33} :
24:33


Translation in : 
English : And let those who do not find the means to marry keep chaste until Allah makes them free from want out of His grace. And (as for) those who ask for a writing from among those whom your right hands possess, give them the writing if you know any good in them, and give them of the wealth of Allah which He has given you; and do not compel your slave girls to prostitution, when they desire to keep chaste, in order to seek the frail good of this world's life; and whoever compels them, then surely after their compulsion Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.


Tamil : விவாகம் செய்வதற்கு (உரிய வசதிகளைப்) பெற்றுக் கொள்ளாதவர்கள் - அவர்களை அல்லாஹ் தம் நல்லருளினால் சீமான்களாக்கும் வரை - அவர்கள் ஒழுக்கம் பேணட்டும். இன்னும் உங்கள் வலக்கரங்கள் சொந்தமாக்கிக் கொண்டவர்களில் (அடிமைகளில் உரிய தொகையைக் கொடுத்தோ அல்லது முறையாக சம்பாதித்துத் தருவதாக வாக்குக் கொடுத்தோ) எவரேனும் (சுதந்திரமாவதற்கான) உரிமைப் பத்திரம் விரும்பினால் - அதற்குரிய நன்மையான தகுதியை நீங்கள் அவ்வடிமையிடம் (இருப்பது பற்றி) அறிவீர்களாயின், அவர்களுக்குத் உரிமை பத்திரம் எழுதிக் கொடுங்கள்; இன்னும் (அதற்கான பொருளை) அல்லாஹ் உங்களுக்குத் தந்திருக்கும் பொருளிலிருந்து அவர்களுக்குக் கொடுப்பீர்களாக; மேலும், தங்கள் கற்பைப் பேணிக் கொள்ள விரும்பும் உங்கள் அடிமைப் பெண்களை - அற்பமான உலக வாழ்க்கை வசதிகளைத் தேடியவர்களாக - விபசாரத்திற்கு (அவர்களை) நிர்ப்பந்திக்காதீர்கள்; அப்படி எவனேனும் அந்தப் பெண்களை நிர்ப்பந்தித்தால் அவர்கள் நிர்ப்பந்திக்கப்பட்ட பின் நிச்சயமாக அல்லாஹ் மன்னிப்பவனாகவும் கிருபையுடையவனாகவும் இருக்கிறான்.


ALLAH(swt) calls money => ALLAH(swt)'s money, but HE favoured HIS servants by making them heirs thereof.
ALLAH(swt) says : 
*{107:7} :
57:7


Translation in : 
English : Believe in Allah and His Messenger, and spend out of what He has made you to be successors of; for those of you who believe and spend shall have a great reward.

Tamil : நீங்கள் அல்லாஹ்வின் மீதும் அவன் தூதர் மீதும் நம்பிக்கை கொள்ளுங்கள்; மேலும், அவன் உங்களை (எந்த சொத்துக்கு) பின் தோன்றல்களாக ஆக்கியுள்ளானோ, அதிலிருந்து (அல்லாஹ்வுக்காகச்) செலவு செய்யுங்கள்; ஏனெனில் உங்களில் எவர்கள் ஈமான் கொண்டு, (அல்லாஹ்வுக்காகச்) செலவும் (தானம்) செய்கிறார்களோ, அவர்களுக்கு (அவனிடம்) பெரியதொரு கூலி இருக்கிறது.


The Ownership belongs to ALLAH(swt), Alone, and the ownership of money is attributed to mankind, as in ALLAH(swt)'s word : 
*{3:186} :
3:186


Translation in : 
English : You shall certainly be tried respecting your wealth and your souls, and you shall certainly hear from those who have been given the Book before you and from those who are polytheists much annoying talk; and if you are patient and guard (against evil), surely this is one of the affairs (which should be) determined upon.


Tamil : (முஃமின்களே!) உங்கள் பொருள்களிலும், உங்கள் ஆத்மாக்களிலும் திடமாக நீங்கள் சோதிக்கப்படுவீர்கள்; உங்களுக்கு முன் வேதம் கொடுக்கப்பட்டோரிடமிருந்து, இணை வைத்து வணங்குவோரிடமிருந்தும் நிபந்தனைகள் பலவற்றையும் செவிமடுப்பீர்கள்; ஆனால் நீங்கள் பொறுமையை மேற்கொண்டு, (இறைவனிடம்) பயபக்தியோடு இருந்தீர்களானால் நிச்சயமாக அதுவே எல்லாக் காரியங்களிலும் (நன்மையைத் தேடி தரும்) தீர்மானத்துக்குரிய செயலாகும்.


According to the AL-QUR'AAN, money is one of ALLAH(swt)'s favors which indicate HIS mercy upon man : 
*{93:6} : 
93:6


Translation in : 
English : Did He not find you an orphan and give you shelter?


Tamil :  (நபியே!) அவன் உம்மை அநாதையாகக் கண்டு, அப்பால் (உமக்குப்) புகலிடமளிக்கவில்லையா?


*{93:7} : 
93:7


Translation in : 
English : And find you lost (that is, unrecognized by men) and guide (them to you)?


Tamil : இன்னும், உம்மை வழியற்றவராகக் கண்டு அவன், (உம்மை) நேர்வழியில் செலுத்தினான்.


*{93:8} : 
93:8


Translation in : 
English : And find you in want and make you to be free from want?


Tamil : மேலும், அவன் உம்மைத் தேவையுடையவராகக்கண்டு, (உம்மைச் செல்வத்தால்) தேவையில்லாதவராக்கினான்.


Money is a grace of ALLAH(swt), HE called it GOOD : 
*{2:180} : 
2:180


Translation in : 
English : Bequest is prescribed for you when death approaches one of you, if he leaves behind wealth for parents and near relatives, according to usage, a duty (incumbent) upon those who guard (against evil).


Tamil : உங்களில் எவருக்கு மரணம் நெருங்கி விடுகிறதோ அவர் ஏதேனும் பொருள் விட்டுச் செல்பவராக இருப்பின், அவர் (தம்) பெற்றோருக்கும், பந்துக்களுக்கும் முறைப்படி வஸிய்யத்து (மரண சாஸனம்)செய்வது விதியாக்கப்பட்டிருக்கிறது; (இதை நியாயமான முறையில் நிறைவேற்றுவது) முத்தகீன்கள்(பயபக்தியுடையோர்) மீது கடமையாகும். 


ISLAM prohibits wasting money, with which ALLAH(swt) has entrusted people :
Hadith narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim :
"Allah has prohibited three things: gossip, much questioning, and wasting money."
What's the meaning of this hadith ?! 
The imam An-Nawawi(to read his biography => CLICK HERE <=), said that wasting money means : spending it unlawfully or exposing it to damage. The reason for this prohibition is because that is conductive to corruption, and ALLAH(swt) doesn't like those who corrupt, because whosoever waste his own money,he is apt to transgress against people's money, which is utmost corruption.


And almost it's an unislamic custom which is bidah !!!



6/ CONCLUSION
Even if we all born with different origins, we still muslims...so we must follow the fiqh al-sunnah. 

        All over the world, we have various manners to wear the hijab. But there is some rules to wear it, if you respect it , it will be a hijab or else it won't be one...
The hijab : 
This piece of cloth has to cover/hide your hair, ears, neck, bossom. But if we wear hijab, we must wear lit with loose clothes => to hide our body shapes.
     
        Then, i want to tell you something, something important in ISLAM.
We are MUSLIMS, we have to follow fiqh al-sunnah as i told above.
Why am i telling you this ?! 
In some contry, the dowry is the problem of some women...even in ISLAM is to man to give it. Logically it's the man, whom has to give it... but why ?! 
The woman is going to leave her home to live in her family in law, she will miss her family a lot...
She will feel a lack, to fill it her husband will give her a gift... 
Do woman have to pay for leaving her family ?! Is it normal ?! 
The indian/pakistani custom is that women give the dowry to men.
=> In islam every UNISLAMIC CUSTOM IS CONSIDERED AS A BIDAH !!!!

      Some of our elders, preserve some customs which it is not good for them. Even, if you are younger than them, you can lecture them, tell them the true !!! 
There isn't any age to learn ISLAM or to teach it...
You have to mend all of our mistakes, if you want a better life now and in the hereafter.
If you wish a better hereafter life for your elders, think to tell them to forget their customs and to follow the SUNNAH...
Try to bring all brothers and sisters in straight path...
Avoid to do too much mistakes(sins)...

I always say to my brothers and sisters " that it's not enough to say that you are a muslim, you have to prove it by Worship ALLAH(swt), reading the AL-QUR'AAN, following the SUNNAH, and if you can making dawah." And also "If you know that you are commiting a sin, stop it. But if you are conscious that's a sin and still do it, the punishment will be severe...".

FORWARD THIS MESSAGE AS MUCH AS YOU CAN , i think that it's really important...
Hope that some of you, will learn something from this... INSHA'ALLAH...








Yours,
M.Shameena

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